What Happens When Your Love Gets Old?

I've never been married unless you count the relationship I have either sex toys or my computer as a marriage, but I have friends who are or who have been in long term relationships. I can put them into two catagories. The ones who say that their sexual activity decreased after a few years of being together and the rest who are lying to me in the hopes that I'll take the bait and settle down. Sure, there are some couples who are just as sexually active today as they were the day they met, but I'm pretty sure that they're the very lucky exceptions.

It seems like all the advice people are always saying to keep the relationship fresh and try new things. I think thats important too, after all if you are always doing the same thing, it gets really super boring. Seriously! Even if that thing is really edgy and kinky like bondage play for example, if thats all you ever do, day in and day out without mixing it up a little, its going to get old after a while. So that sounds pretty easy right? Hey, lets just do something new tonight! Problem solved, call off the alarms, nothing to see here, right? Maybe not.

First, it takes creativity to keep thinking of new things. And its not just enough to know what your fantasies are, you have to come up with reasonable ways of exploring them! If thats not hard enough, you have to get someone else on board as well and their level of enthusiasm for it may range from woo woo to absolutely not. Somewhere in the middle is usually where you land and if the other person has landed on "it doesn't really interest me but I'll do it if it makes you happy", well how happy is that really going to make you? I mean sure you get to explore that fantasy which is always exciting but isn't the point of being in that relationship because you want to see that other person happy and you want for them to get enjoyment out of the things you enjoy too as you share them? You know, so that if you're sharing things you enjoy but its a burden or obligation to that other person, well that takes some of the fun out of it.

So lets assume you and the other person actually came up with a nice list of things that you both agree that you want to try together. Good for you! But you're not getting out of it that easily! There's another obstacle to overcome. You have to actually go and do it! I said I was never married thats true, but I have been in a lot of relationships and some were longer than others. Granted, my relationships might not be the best stick to compare to, I'm a pretty wild girl, but still, I know that you get into a rut of behavior and its hard to get out of it. People get tired or stressed and they just don't want to put in the effort. If the guy or girl gets horny, maybe they'll put in just enough effort to get themselves off sure but otherwise forget it. So sure it takes a lot of effort and willingness to overcome the stress or fatigue or desire just go watch the game and spend a little more time exchanging all kinds of bodily fluids.

This brings us to a friend of mine who recently asked me to help her. Apparently her husband liked to see her dress up in fetish outfits which she was happy to do for a while but over time she was dressing up less and less and not really putting the effort into it. She was usually more tired than horny and there was another issue of she often didn't feel like initiating sex and he didn't either so with neither person really making the first move unless one was particularly horny, very little sex was going on in that house.

Luckily they had a nice open talk and acknowledged that it was something both wanted to change. So they discussed some ideas and somehow a couple of the things they came up with involved me. Before you start thinking threesome, which was where I thought they were going with it, it was actually something else. See, I love threesomes and foursomes and whatever else but I also believe that it has to be between people who are casual with each other. When you start having group sex with some of the people involved being close relationship people, only a few special relationships can really handle that over the long term. No, that wasn't it at all. So she proposed two things she wanted me to do.

The first was for me to have sex with another girl in front of her husband and her. She said they both could enjoy it and as I and another girl were getting it on, it would turn them on and they would get busy too. I love having sex with other girls as much as any other bi girl, but I had to ask the question, why not just get a lesbian porn video? Isn't that pretty much the same thing? Apparently not. First, porn videos are 2 dimensional, you get sound and sight but none of the other senses, you can't control the action or visuals at all, the stories are often pretty poor and predictable and theres no interaction. Not that they wanted to interact with me while I had a girl's pussy rubbing against my face, but apparently giving my ass a little swat or squeezing my boob from either of them would be within acceptable behavior. So this sounded like a pretty reasonable argument. After all, maybe having two hot girls go at each other on your living room floor while you and your wife watch and get horny is a truly different experience from just popping in a lesbian dvd. I had to think on that one for a while.

The next idea she had was a domination fantasy. Apparently someone has been reading my blog, much to my surprise. I assumed that maybe 3 people were reading this and 2 probably kept reading holding out hope that one day I would slip and accidently include my phone number in there somewhere. So I have a reader! Wooo! That having been said, I had a blog many months ago in which I talked about how I did a favor for a pro Mistress who had a client who wanted to be dominated at the same time as a girl. So I was that girl. Now as you know I'm generally submissive so taking a sub role is fun and easy for me, but that doesn't mean I can't switch. Well apparently this woman and her husband started talking and they started to like the idea of both being dominated together. She was a little apprehensive about it claiming that she's not lesbian and she doesn't want to lick pussy or kiss the Mistress or whatever, but basically, the husband had this fantasy just like the other guy who went to the professional Mistress that he's dominated, controlled and restrained along with a girl, only he was cool with the girl being his wife. How fun!

So that's where they figured I came in which was I could be the Mistress. The idea being, there would be no sex between them and me, just between themselves but that I would control the scene and order the sex. In other words, my role would be to bind and chain them up in different ways, humiliate them a little, have them lick my boots, force them to kiss each other, rub against each other, give each other oral sex, etc. You know, all the fun foreplay stuff that couples should be doing with each other voluntarily!! Well sometimes getting people to do the foreplay takes a little motivation. I guess its easier to do it when theres a hot Asian girl in skin tight latex and thigh high pvc boots standing over you flogging your ass than if you're just in your bed with your wife on a Wednesday night. I'm still thinking of this one. I know when I was the submissive in this kind of scene the Mistress tied up the guy's cock and ran a rope thru my pussy and later she leashed his cock and leashed my pussy by my rings and put butt plugs in us and did all kinds of other fun things, so I have a pretty good idea of how I would do it based on what she's told me.

This is where it comes down to. We have a couple who truly wants to improve their sex lives and is willing to take some pretty exciting steps to do it. We have me who loves sex and kinky stuff and probably wouldn't mind either having sex with a girl while a couple of people watch or dominating them. So I'm not sure that there's anything wrong with helping out a friend and doing one or the other or both. What I'm concerned about is I don't want to become their porn dvd. You know what I mean? Like the only time they can have sex is if I come by and we do some sort of show or scene for them and then they get dependant on that sort of interaction. This goes back to the mixing things up idea I spoke of at the beginning. Too much of a good thing can be bad. Sure, having a little live sex show on the living room floor is exciting if it happens on very rare occasions and is special and new, but like anything else, if its all you do and you don't find new ways to explore sex and new things to try, the excitement of it will diminish each time and eventually it just won't be a turn on anymore. That's my thought anyway, I hope you'll share yours!

Locked to Another Girl by Pussy Rings!

Sometimes when I have an experience like I did this past Saturday, it makes me think that I just don't have nearly enough body piercings. I would definately love to get more, the problem isn't desire, I just don't have the willpower to go through with it without serious motivation going on. As you know, I have two rings in my pussy (one in each inner labia) and that was done in a way in which I had no choice. I mean I had a choice sure, we all have a choice but when you're in an armbinder and on a leash and you have a big black inflatable penis gag filling your mouth, you really don't have a lot of room to complain. See, that's how I got the rings in my pussy in the first place. I explained to the Mistress I was playing with a lot at the time that I was definately open to it but that it would take a bit of force to get me to go through with it. So one day she stripped my little brown body down, strapped my arms behind me, cuffed my ankles and put a short chain between them so I had to hobble and just to make sure I couldn't complain about it, shoved a big penis gag in my mouth that felt like it went halfway down my throat. It definately wasn't comfortable having that thing in there but on the bright side, maybe I can suck cock now better because of it. Who knows.

Still, the actual piercing wasn't too bad and the experience was deliciously humiliating which of course definately gets my girl juices dripping. We went to a piercing studio owned by a friend of the Mistress which is why we were able to get away with my revealing and restrained appearance. I was strapped into a chair with legs spread and the process itself took very little time and of course, sitting their with my bald little pussy so vulnerable and available is a total turn on. I didn't know whether to be nervous or horny. I think I was a lot of both. When it was over I had two cute little gold rings that I really love to this day. People have used them to leash me, lock my slutty little fuck hole shut, put bells on me so they can hear and humiliate me, weights to stretch my little lips down and lots of other creative things and each one of them gets me totally dripping wet horny!

I've thought often about more piercings but I've never gone through with it. I would love some rings in my nipples, tongue, nose, belly and even more in my pussy, but despite the good experience with the rings I have, without the proper motivation its just too hard for me to actually want to go do that myself. Besides, once you've been gagged and bound for a piercing, everything else will seem boring in comparison. The only way I think I can get pierced again is for it to happen in a way thats even more restrained and humiliating. I definately think its going to take some more bondage, gags and me being completely naked, spread and vulnerable. Even if its my nipples being pierced, I'm pretty sure my legs should be spread anyway just to show what a slut I am.

One of my big fantasies is the idea of being locked to another person and while its something I have done a few times, each time is really incredible and special. So this brings us to last Saturday night at a private bondage party. I have to say most of the people there were really hot and they really know how to dress. I came in a cute little tight and shiny PVC dress but that didn't stay on my body for very long. I spend most of the party totally naked except for my heels and collar. First it started with me being stripped so I could get a nice over the knee spanking by a guy I know. I'm not really into spankings but it wasn't a big deal for me and honestly the guy spent more time fingering my pussy than spanking me anyway. I didn't complain.

After that I was leashed and on the floor with my arms bound behind me for a while and a cute blonde slave girl came in later she was played with for a while. Then someone realized that her pussy and my pussy were pierced in almost the same way, with little gold rings in each labia and that we were about the same size. So naturally a couple of little locks came out and we were forced to stand facing each other and each of her pussy rings were locked to mine. Obviously no other restraints were needed because its not like either of us could escape. We were like that for a couple of hours and when she needed to go to pee or I did, we had to be very coordinated, though to be honest, I always love watching other girls pee and I love it when people watch me pee so that was an additional bonus turn on.

Even though I really loved this humiliation and the sexual contact (I loved how much our boobs and nipples rubbed together and we spent a lot of time with our tongues in each others mouths), I kept thinking how much cooler it would be if our nipples were also locked together, or if we both had tongue rings and those were locked as well. See where my imagination is taking me? This starts to run into fantasy territory for me and I think I've written about some of these things in some of my stories too. The idea that I become an owned slave who gets totally pierced and marked and theres other slaves the same way and we're locked together in different ways. Maybe my tongue locked on her pussy or my pussy locked to her nose ring, etc. The other variation is the idea of having many rings down my pussy lips so my little fuck hole can be totally closed. Instant chastity! That's a hard one for me to deal with considering how much I love sex. I have seen other girls who had that done and half of me is jealous and half of me wonders if I'd be able to do that too or if its just a fantasy for me. See, thats the nice thing about body piercings is that they make for great ways to control a naughty little slut slave without all the trouble of restraints and I can tell you from first hand experience that when you are leashed or locked by a piercing, you respond to that very very quickly. I've been leashed by my rings many times and when the leash is pulled, I move very fast!

So that's what got me wondering again about getting more piercings was the experience with the cute blonde slave girl. Naturally this is going to bring up the question of what should get pierced next and under what circumstances would be erotic enough to actually get me horny and crazed enough to do it. If I think of anything I'll let you know, but I expect for you to share your thoughts with me on this too!